“Everything is temporary. Everything. How you feel now, you wont feel that way in six weeks, in six weeks how you feel you won’t feel the six weeks after that. Nothing lasts forever”
This is part of a conversation I had with Charlie at dinner last night. We were talking, as you do, about situations that we had recently found ourselves in in life and how it sucks when things don’t turn out the way you hoped and planned.
Letting go and moving on are two things that go together; like mac and cheese, or Ant and Dec, they are eternally meant to go together. It’s a part of life. We need to accept it – only then can we truly learn to let go.
Just because things don’t work out the way you plan, doesn’t mean it’s been a waste of your time. It just means it wasn’t meant to be, or the timing was off, it just means that there was a lesson to be learnt and, once the lesson was learnt, it was done.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
If you are ‘letting go’ of something, chances are it wasn’t a healthy attachment be it physically, mentally or emotionally. Perhaps all three. As you get older you begin to become wiser to what is best for you, sometimes walking away is painful, but it is also a step forward. You’re reminding yourself you are worth more than whatever is holding you back or causing you pain. You are realising your self worth and, to my mind, that is never a bad thing.
It doesn’t mean that it will be any less painful, it just means that you trust in what is to come. As a general rule we are creatures of habit, so change is always hard but change always happens for a reason. You need to go with the change to find out what that reason is. Moving away from your comfort zone, the habits you’ve got yourself into, the ones that feel like a nice hug isn’t easy; but then is anything worthwhile in life easy?
There is so much for us to do in the one short life we have, we all have so many hopes and wishes and dreams, things we want to do, places we want to visit. Sometimes letting go of what is holding you back is the best way to propel yourself into the path to make these dreams come true. After all “as one door closes, another door opens”. We just have to trust that we know what is best for ourselves, and that by letting go of painful situations, we will open ourselves up to so much more happiness than we ever allowed ourselves to imagine. You just have to be brave enough to take that first step.