Are you happy? Genuinely happy? Take a minute to think about your life are you happy with it? Sure it’s not perfect, no one’s life is, but are you happy with it?
My answer would be no.
Sure I have happy moments – when I’m playing football with MJ, or walking along Brighton pier with Rach and Oscar, visiting my Irish or American families etc. – but these moments of happiness are fleeting. The happiness never seems to stay. No matter how much I look for it. It seems to elude me.
There is a quote that get’s chucked around a fair amount –
But the problem I have with that is this. Happiness is my goal in life, so why would I not chase it? Nothing in this life comes free; nothing is handed to us on a plate. Happiness included.
Please don’t misunderstand me when I say ‘happy with life’, I don’t mean that things are 100% perfect, 100% of the time. This is real life after all. I mean that, when you sit there and think about it, are you are happy with your life the people in it. The job you have. The places you’ve been. The things you’ve done. Everything you’ve seen. Where you’re headed. Are you happy with that when you take the day-to-day stuff out?
Is it my fault that I can’t find a permanent happiness? I’ve been told on more than one occasion that I am never satisfied and that my expectations are too high. I guess I just know what I want, and I don’t want to settle for anything less.
One of my favourite songs is Kid Cudi’s “pursuit of happiness” – the chorus could be my theme tune.
There are various scientists that claim to have found the secret to happiness. Dr Sood even has I down to 4 simple steps. According to him 40-50% of our happiness is down to the choices we make and where we put our focus daily. Gratitude also features in his research into the key to happiness.
I am very aware of the many things in life I have to be thankful for. Hash tag blessed. Alas, it still eludes me.
So still, why can’t I find it? Do you know? Am I the only one who feels like this?
Answers on a postcard.
Advice gratefully received.
Read more of Dr. Sood’s work here: http://stressfree.org/
Kid Cudi ‘Pursuit of Happiness’ available to buy on iTunes. The music video is here