Words to learn from.

Hi friends,

I hope you’re well on this beautiful, beautiful Saturday. I have had lovely belated birthday out with two of my most favourite friends. I’ve come home with slight sunburn, face paint and lots of memories and possible plans for the future.

So, fun fact about me; I don’t really like people but I am a little obsessed with what they all think. I love listening or reading about people and I adore them sharing their lessons and views on anything and everything. I truly believe that we can learn so much if we just listen. We very often listen just to respond, we don’t listen to learn. We just need to pay attention.

Another fun fact about me: since I was around 15 I have kept journals filled with my thoughts / lessons learnt but also with the words of others that have, for one reason or another, struck a chord with me. Sometimes it has been what I needed to hear at the time, others it has been that I just knew I’d need to hear it at some point in the future. I’ll jot them down in a notepad, other times I’ll take a photo of them with my phone or in the ‘notes’ app and I go over them from time to time.

Today, I did just that and thought I’d share some of those with you. The majority of these are from this year; some are from years gone by. Unfortunately I am not so great at noting down where I get them from, some you may recognise, others you may not but all rights to their respective owners. Some of them I have added my thoughts in brackets to, others I haven’t.

Here we go…

“Ruin is beautiful. It’s where transformation happens” (What a beautiful way to look at it)

 

“Real loss is only possible when you love something more than you love yourself”

 

“We all need someone who challenges us, someone who touches our soul”

 

“Some people can’t believe in themselves until someone else believes in them first” (This is me. 100% )

 

“We get to choose who we let in to our weird little world”

 

“Sure you’ll have bad times, but it will always wake you up to the good stuff you weren’t paying attention to” (PREACH)

 

“Part of growing up is learning to leave behind the nasty remarks and the hurt that comes with them and turning them into positives.”

 

“Ugliness is on the inside. Hatred and cruelty are what make a person truly ugly”

 

“The perfect marriage, just like the perfect wedding, doesn’t exist”

 

“It’s what marriage is all about: finding someone to love and love you back, through lifes hurdles. There should be excitement and fun but its how you deal with the tough times, how you get through the day-to-day and grow together that matters”

 

“We must take care of our family, no matter where we find them” (For someone who has always said family is purely blood, nothing more, this is super on point)

 

“The only way to heal is to trust”

 

“I thought too much, felt too much. I didn’t want to feel anything” – this should be engraved on my gravestone when I die.

 

“Getting older means accepting loss; it’s a fact of life. Some people will stay forever, some wont. It’s the heartbreak of being on this planet”

 

“My friends are my human wonderbras. Supportive, uplifting and they make me look bigger and better” (Thanks to my human wonderbras. You know who you are)

 

“There are people that you have that you cant bullshit and you have to be honest with them. Whether you want to or not”

 

“To be of service to other people is a purpose of life”

 

“The centre of the earth can be anywhere you want it to be”

 

“Sometimes closure arrives years later. Long after you stopped searching for it. You’re just sitting there, laughing this laugh that is unapologetically yours. As it trails off, the corners of your mouth hugs your face and it hits you “I’m happy”. It’s just like that. With no fanfare or epiphany. Suddenly you are grateful for the goodbyes that carried you to this moment; to the space you are now holding” (LIFE GOALS)

 

And the last one… a lovely one to finish with

 

“You’re always someone’s hero, whether you know it or not”

 

There we have it… just a selection of those I’ve noted down this last while. Those that know me may be able to guess which ones struck a chord with me and why – possibly even ones that I haven’t yet figured out myself. Anyway, I hope you enjoy them, I hope that maybe you might have had a moment of clarity when reading one of them.

 

I know I have.

 

From me and my hippy heart

Big love xoxo

Micks

Quotes to live by

Last night, I was on Instagram and came across a post that said something along the lines of

“I never said that! – signed, Marilyn Monroe, Buddha, Kurt Cobain, Bob Marley etc”

and, after I’d finished chuckling at it, because we all know the so-called sources of the millions of quotes batted around should be take with a pinch of salt, I got to thinking about what seism to be the explosion of quotes, as social media has exploded so has the amount of quotes we see. You could search #quote right now on instagram and you would see 21,563,189 posts with that hashtag (at least on 16/04/15 at 3pm you would have) . That’s not counting all the other hashtags that are related like #quotestoliveby #quotestagram #quoteoftheday #quotemeonthat…. the list is endless.

Words are powerful things.
I remember once seeing an interview with the Fresh Prince himself, Will Smith, on The Ellen DeGenres show in the States and she was asking him about his kids education and his response was that he always encourages his children to read, he tells them if they have a problem, read – because there is someone, somewhere that has been through it before. I thought this was a pretty cool advice, not just for his kids, but for people in general.

It seems everyone loves a quote, where we used to soul search through reading , or through talking with friends and family, nowadays all it can take is a good quote to give us a kick up the bum, or calm us, or re focus us and our energies. The main message of the most recent live action Disney movie, Cinderella (which is AMAZING, just FYI), is the quote “Have Courage, and Be Kind” – a pretty good hashtag quote to live by, I’m sure you’ll agree. My cousin Katie, has even said she is going to bring up her little princess on those words.

I, myself, am a big fan of quotes and therefore have decide to share with you guys my top ten quotes to live by.

  1. A day without laughter is a day wasted – Unknown

Anyone who knows me knows I love to laugh. My theme tune could be “I love to laugh” from Mary Poppins. IT’S JUST SUCH FUN! I completely believe this and make sure I achieve this every day, life can be such a shitter at times but if you can laugh your way through it, you’re doing something right.

  1. Happiness can be found in even the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light – Albus Dumbledore

Ever the optimist, I am a glass half full kind of gal. The silver lining can be found in pretty much any situation, and you just need to focus on that to get you through it.

  1. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt

I love this quote SO much. We all seem to put so much on what other people think of us, how we come across. When people don’t see us they way we see ourselves, or say something negative or derogatory about us it can leave scars for days, if not years. We worry incessantly about what people, some of whom we’ll either, never see again or don’t even like, think. WHY DO WE DO IT? It is the most ridiculous thing. I’m guilty of it, and I’d bet you all are too. I take my hats off to those who can say they don’t worry what others think and are 100% honest with that. So long as the life your living is yours, do what you want. Who cares what Joe Bloggs thinks? You’ve no one to answer to but yourself (and maybe your Mum. And the Police).

  1. We accept the love we think we deserve – Stephen Chobsky

A simple but great quote from one of the most quotable books ever written: The Perks Of Being A Wallflower (a must read for all those book worms out there). When you know you deserve to be treated as an equal, with respect, compassion, love – that’s all you’ll accept from any person, and any relationship. If you allow someone to mistreat you, yes it makes that person an ass for doing it in the first place, but what does it say about how you view yourself? If you respected yourself more, you’d know you are worth so much more than that – you deserve the best because you are the best!

  1. The problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude to the problem – Captain Jack Sparrow

I consider myself a positive person, not like Santa at DisneyLand on Prozac kind of positive but I try and find the best in each situation, and i have done ever since the worst year of my life so far (2011 for those that want to know) I learnt a lot about myself and my limits, and what I accept from the people around me. Ever since then when I have a situation I’m unhappy with I try and change it, if I can’t change it then I accept it, and get on with it. Some things you can’t change, there is no point in being bitter or angry about it – you’re just wasting your energy.

  1. it’s OK to be angry, it’s never ok to be cruel – unknown

Exactly as it says. We all get angry, we all get pissed off and say things in the spur of the moment. Things we later regret but you can’t recover the word after it’s said. Your anger will fade but the sting and memory of the words you said to whomever you said it to, will not. I still remember words said to me 6 years ago in arguments, hell I can even recall hurtful things said to me by my sister when I was still in school. I’ve never been one to physically fight, but damn I can be a right bitch and a spiteful one with my words if I want to be. So when I get the urge (which is once in a blue moon, I’m happy to say) to be spiteful because someone has pissed me off, I take 5 and calm down and remind myself of this.

  1. Pissing in my yard ain’t gonna make yours any greener – lyric from ‘Biscuits’ by Kacey Musgraves

Again, this is about being wise with your words. Stereotypically girls are bitches, but I think boys are just as prone to bringing people down because they are jealous. We’ve all been on the receiving end of jealous comments at some point, even if we didn’t realise it. This whole song is about focusing on yourself and what you have going on, rather than focusing on what your neighbour is doing and hating on that. You can live your life tryna belittle others, but that doesn’t make you any bigger or better than them. Pissin’ in someone elses yard aint gonna make yours any greener. The only way to be better is to focus on and continually improve yourself. Focus on you.

  1. You can’t make people love you. Either they do or they don’t. The End. – Keltie Knight nee Colleen

As someone who has an innate need to be liked this is one of the hardest lessons I’m learning. Sometimes people don’t like you, it’s nothing you’ve done. They just don’t, for reasons unknown. So rather than worrying about those people, spend time and make memories with those that do. They are the ones that matter.

  1. Don’t you ever regret knowing someone in your life. Good people will give you happiness, bad people will give you experience while the worst people will give you a lesson and the best people will always give you memories – Unknown

Every person comes in to your life for a reason, they can be a lesson or a blessing. You’ve just got to wait it out to see which one they are. Appreciate the good. Forget the bad, but don’t forget what you learnt.

  1. You only live once but, if you do it right, once is enough – unknown

This is one of Rachpal’s favourite quotes and I love it. You only get one life, so live it how you want to, go grab it by the horns. Money is temporary, memories are priceless. As Drake says, YOLO – that’s the motto.

Xoxo

Micks

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